Tuesday, December 25, 2012

It's a Wonderful Life

During the still quietness of Christmas morning, I'm watching "It's a Wonderful Life" on DVD as the rest of the fam sleeps. I LOVE THIS FILM!!! [SIDE NOTE: I thought about this after Chris Matthews mentioned how The Union likened John Boehner to Mr. Potter in the sideshow on Hardball. See the clip here: http://video.msnbc.msn.com/hardball/50252291/]

Here is one of my favorite scenes from "It's a Wonderful Life":


[SIDE NOTE: the scene reminds me of this verse sung by Tammi Terrell and Cheryl Lynn in "If This World Were Mine":
 


"If this world were mine, I'd make you a king
With wealth untold, you could have anything
If this world were mine
I'd give you each day so sunny and blue
If you wanted the moonlight, I'd give you that too
If this world were mine
I'd give you anything"

Yes, my inner romantic lives.]

Unfortunately, the bright-eye, bushy-tail, romantic George Bailey lost his zeal for his existence. But, with divine intervention, George found the hope and faith he lost and realized he had, in fact, a wonderful life.

I have come to admire those whose spirits overflow with positivity and thankfulness. In this life full of challenges, pains and disappointments, it is important to have the ability to find the silver lining in an otherwise dull/gloomy sky. While I'm generally not a Complaining Connie, sometimes it's hard to be happy about the flower growing out from under the ashes of a forest destroyed by fire. But, this movie (and a heaven-sent influence) has reminded me there is good even in bad situations. Even with its flaws, my life is wonderful. On the day we celebrate God giving us the gift of His son Jesus, I'm thankful for the gift of my wonderful life and all of the wonderful ppl in it.

*cues Nat King Cole's "Christmas Song"*


"And so I'm offering this simple phrase,
To kids from one to ninety-two,
Although its been said many times, many ways,
A very Merry Christmas to you"

Friday, December 21, 2012

Thoughts/P​rayers re: Newtown/Gun Control

At 9:30 a.m., many joined together in a moment of silence in tribute to victims of the Newtown, CT shooting. Over the past week, I’ve collected a series of tweets, quotes and my own commentary on the tragic shooting and the gun control debate that has ensued:

One week ago today, as @KattWillliams tweeted: "18 kids went to school this morning probably happy it's Friday and excited for Christmas and they didn't even make it to lunch. smh." 

The shooting in Newtown hit me hard. I have a soft spot in my heart for children. Christmas is one of my favorite celebrations of the year. Hearing about the shooting in Newtown, ripped in a new place my already fragile heart still healing from additional less than pleasant realities. 

Thankfully, I learned of the news while in an unintentionally created bubble (which has served as a positive protective layer and negativity buffer over the past few days). Still, although not personally connected to Newtown, I progressed through some version of the stages of grief (i.e. denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance). [SIDE NOTE: I couldn't believe God would let something like this happen to children so close to the celebration of His son's birth (and then I remembered John 3:16 and the sacrifice God made of His son so that we could be forgiven of our sins and have eternal life).That perspective shift gave me peace and moved me closer to acceptance.]

I was irked by how quickly the shooting was politicized. The total number of human lives lost hadn't even been confirmed before politicians & policy wonks began calling for stricter gun control laws. Now, do NOT misunderstand me: I support the concept of stricter gun control laws. BUT, the world is fooling itself it if believes that is the magic bullet.

Reducing the likelihood that another Newtown doesn't happen again will take a multi-faceted approach. Tom Brokaw (@tombrokaw) made a great point on Twitter when he discussed how the debate should be framed: “[i]t is not enough to talk about access to guns. We also have to address a popular culture that treats graphic violence as routine.” President Obama agrees: "[i]t's a complex problem that requires more than one solution," White House spokesman Jay Carney said Tuesday. "It calls for not only re-examining our gun laws and how well we enforce them, but also for engaging mental health professionals, law enforcement officials, educators, parents and communities to find those solutions."

Sen. Chuck Schumer (D-NY) made a good point on CBS's Face the Nation regarding how our severely partisan politicians should think about gun control laws: "[w]e need a new paradigm because both sides are in the corner and they could come to the middle. Those of who are pro-gun control have to admit that there is a Second Amendment right to bear arms... once we establish that there is a constitutional right to bear arms we should have the right admit, and maybe they'll be more willing to admit, that no amendment is absolute after all."

Christopher Hayes (@chrislhayes) astutely inquired semi-rhetorically on Twitter on the constitutional right to bear arms: "Am I wrong that it's genuinely unclear whether an assault weapons ban would pass constitutional muster post Heller?"

[SIDE NOTE: This tweet caught my eye because BUT FOR Professor Dawson’s Con Law class this past semester, I wouldn’t even know what DC v. Heller was and why this case is significant to the gun control debate. In case you are not familiar with Heller, here is a brief synopsis:
Citation. 128 S. Ct. 2783 (2008)

Brief Fact Summary. The District of Columbia has a ban on handguns, and in addition prohibits them from being in the home unless they are disabled. Respondent Heller brings an action claiming that this complete ban violates the 2nd Amendment right to keep and bear arms.

Synopsis of Rule of Law. The 2nd Amendment extends a right to all individuals to keep firearms, and although the 2nd Amendment is not absolute, a complete ban on a class of weapons (handguns), even for a lawful purpose, violates the constitution.


SOURCE: http://www.casebriefs.com/blog/law/constitutional-law/constitutional-law-keyed-to-chemerinsky/the-federal-judicial-power/district-of-columbia-v-heller/ 

I have a new appreciation for the law-making process and judicial review of legislative actions after taking Con Law this semester. I am so thankful for the opportunity to learn about the law and pray that I can do my part to help my community with the unique skillset I am developing.] 

Gun control debate aside, as funerals for the 26 slain occur and Christmas draws near, I support Iyanla Vanzant (@IyanlaVanzant) suggestion: “…pray for someone you DON'T like or have treated poorly; pray for a child who is hurting; then pray for yourself to be and do better.”

For anyone suffering a loss this season, remember:
 
Proverbs 3:5
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.

Psalm 34:18
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Matthew 5:4
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
 
 
***POST PUBLISHING UPDATE*** 
It is hard to put in words the bizarre and sickening spectacle that was the NRA presser at 11a. But some did try:
Christopher Hayes (@chrislhayes)
The moral obtuseness on display here is jaw-dropping.
Matt Seaton (@mattseaton)
This NRA presser is not train wreck. It's an asteroid impact. Media profs will be teaching it for years as epic 'how not to' do crisis comms
I'm literally waiting for someone to yell "JUST KIDDING" & for the real @NRA presser to begin. I refuse to believe this is their real plan.
I'm pinching myself as I tweet...yea, this is real :-/ “@DanielSCronrath: @DavidCornDC I'm now speechless. Is this real?”
LaPierre's apparent lack of compassion came off as cold-hearted as he articulated the NRA's [RIDICULOUS] plan:
STEP 1: Enter an alternative reality
I'm quite sure these words were uttered in front of a mirror as an affirmation:
David Corn (@DavidCornDC)
LaPierre: Black is white. #Newtown
[SIDE NOTE: Also, up is down; right is left; and  pigs can fly.]
STEP 2: Blame the media/entertainment/society
[SIDE NOTE: Although I agree with this plank of the plan, I am OUTRAGED the NRA didn't discuss how their policy positions play a roll in gun-related tragedies NOR the issue of assault weapons control!!!!!]
David Axelrod (@davidaxelrod)
Lapierre is right on culture; fundamentally dishonest in raising it. We need 2 act on all: weapons of war; violent culture. Mental health.

STEP 3: Blame the government
Jonathan Capehart (@CapehartJ)
NRA: We leave kids utterly defenseless. And the monsters and predators of the world know it.
HuffPost Politics (@HuffPostPol)
RT @LukeRussert: Wow. LaPierre says that "Gun Free Signs" at schools tell killers that schools are easy targets.

STEP 4: Articulate that having more guns is the solution
The Fix (@TheFix)
"The only thing that stops a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun." -- Wayne LaPierre
  • Commentary:
Christopher Hayes (@chrislhayes)
Good guys w/ guns vs bad guys w/ guns is, ironically, the moral cosmology of a small child.
Karen Finney (@finneyk)
Lapierre's suggestion that more guns is the appropriate response is disgustingly misguided.
David Corn (@DavidCornDC)
LaPierre: It's all about the children. We need more guns for the children. We need assault weapons & hi-capacity clips for the children.
STEP 5: Ask for congressional appropriations for armed guards
Jonathan Capehart (@CapehartJ)
NRA: Calls on Congress to appropriate $$$ to put armed police officers in every school in nation after the holidays.

[SIDE NOTE: This seems like a big government action to me. I thought conservatives were against big government.]
Luke Russert (@LukeRussert)
There are 98,817 public schools in America. NRA saying today they should all be protected by armed guards.
PostPolitics (@postpolitics)
Former Rep. Asa Hutchinson will lead @NRA's push for more armed security in schools.
Mark Knoller (@markknoller)
LaPierre says NRA has 11,000 police training instructors ready to help train security personnel for school security nationwide.
STEP 6: Create a database of the mentally ill
Jonathan Capehart (@CapehartJ)
NRA: Calls for a national database of the criminally mentally ill.

[SIDE NOTE: AGAIN, this seems like a big government action to me. I thought conservatives were against big government.]
Ezra Klein (@ezraklein)
So tracking private gun sales is an unconscionable assault on liberty but we can have a national database of the mentally ill.
STEP 7: REFUSE TO ANSWER ANY QUESTIONS (even AFTER you were heckled twice)!!!!
BOLD!!! “@TheFix: Guy holding up an "NRA killing our kids" sign in front of cameras.”
Jonathan Capehart (@CapehartJ)
Another protester with sign. "NRA has blood on its hands."
SHAME!!! “@CapehartJ: LaPierre asked for his reaction to the protests. He ignores and keeps going”
Ezra Klein (@ezraklein)
It's amazing how much damage LaPierre is doing to the NRA without even allowing questions.
Karen Finney (@finneyk)
A week after the Newton tragedy, LaPierre is still a coward unwilling to face tough questions.
David Corn (@DavidCornDC)
Mr. LaPierre, we will tax gun sales to pay for these police officers? Oh, I forgot again, you're not taking questions. #Newtown
David Corn (@DavidCornDC)
LaPierre, so why do we need semiautomatic weapons with high-capacity clips? Oh, I forgot, you're not taking questions. #Newtown


Thursday, December 20, 2012

Pink Champagne Life

I indulged my inner romantic by watching Cary Grant & Deborah Kerr in an Affair to Remember:



The development of their connection was organic and captivating to watch. A woman can only hope to experience something similar. In the interim, I will enjoy the thought of pink champagne by candlelight, a red heart-shaped balloon tied to a package of Sour Patch Kids, and future expressions of thoughtful attention to detail. *smiles*

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

I Want a House

This song describes my dating philosophy fairly succinctly:


Lyric
 Philosophy

"I want a house"

I want something lasting/permanent

"Built of old wood"

Solid/100% real construction materials required (e.g. honesty, respect, ability to communicate)

"You can paint it any color you like"

Superficial details don’t matter that much to me (e.g. height, skin color, favorite foods)

"Just so long as I can live with you"

“The one” is the person for whom my soul yearns because we are uniquely compatible (i.e. are good for, to and with each other)

Monday, December 03, 2012

Adapting to Changing Times

Growing up, my parents enstilled in me that life by its very nature was going to include ups and downs (probably, more downs than ups). There will be successes celebrate AND failures we will need to mitigate and learn from. Moreover, my parents taught me that life is fluid. No matter what we plan and hope for, an unexpected twist will manifest itself sooner than later. The extent to which we enjoy life is often highly dependent on how we handle these challenges. The key is to be flexible (we shouldn't try to build a house where we are supposed to erect a tent). Using our discerning spirit, we must learn how to tell the time. 

Since "W.I.W." didn't work out as I hoped, I've been meditating on this familar passage of scripture:
Ecclesiastes 3
New International Version (NIV)

A Time for Everything
1 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:

2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
6 a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
7 a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
8 a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

In thinking about the time, I also have been listening to a secular song from the 1970s. (SIDE NOTE:I was suprised when I found it on iTunes!) My dad often referenced this song's title when it was a certain time and things were not going as we hoped/planned:
 

Although the lyrics in their entirety do not apply to my current situation, the chorus rings true:

"If it don't fit, don't force it. Just relax and let it go.
Just 'cause that's how you want it, doesn't mean it will be so."

 
To be honest, a part of me still wants what I want and hopes against hope. I don't know what the future holds. But, I know who holds my future. I pray God's will be done. Amen.